How do we deal with the things in life that bother us? Once we recognize what they are, what are we willing to do about it? I believe each day we make decisions concerning areas that are irritating us, one way or the other. At what point are we willing to make a change? Are we willing to leave things the way they are, hoping upon hope they will change later? Do we just accept them as fate? Or, are we willing to pay the price it may take to make a change?
It is easy to say we need to change this or that, then keep doing the same things over and over again. I have found using ‘Choice Theory’ in the therapy world to be a very effective tool. It explains how we make choices to fill one of our five basic needs. These needs are defined as survival, love and belonging, power and respect, freedom, and fun. Every human being, no matter what age, gender, race or culture, has the same basic needs.
Knowing we need to make choices that will create change, are we willing to do so or do we leave things status quo? Do we remove ourselves from negative circumstances that are influencing us, or stay in the same situation? Are we willing to do what it takes to create a more positive quality world in our lives?
Although it seems too simplistic, it is accurate to say, “If we keep doing what we’re doing, we’re going to get what we got”! If we want something we’ve never had, we have to do something we’ve never done.
Personally, I don’t want to stay with the status quo, it is destructive to my health, my relationships, and my occupation. I am working to change my circumstances. I know that is easier said than done, and at times I’m not sure I really even mean it when my actions are louder than my words.
It is important to remember we all need encouragement and help from each other at times. As I write about change, I am the first to say, I too am working on changes in my life in many areas. There are times we all need to have others in our lives to help as we go through transitions. The good news is that together we can help each other to reach our goals one step at a time.