How to solve a problem?

Have you ever noticed as we successfully solve one problem, another arises that is more complex? It appears with each new difficulty more issues come forth with even greater challenges. It is true, to solve any problematic situation one has to know a solution in order to find the right answer. Yet I question the motive of those who diligently taught us to believe that we have to know all the answers to be smart or successful. Who gave us the impression that the person who knows the most is smarter, better or even stronger? That belief system is not correct, it is perpetuated in the educational field and the job market. We have been programmed to believe we have to be able to “figure everything out” or we are not intelligent.
While being trained in my doctorate program as a Clinical Psychologist, I was required to purchase psychological testing kits. We were taught how to administer a variety of tests including the IQ test. Have you ever wondered what is your IQ, or heard someone say, “I wonder what is my IQ”? There are mathematical numbers assigned to measure children’s, as well as adult’s, levels of intelligence. Here is a different perspective describing intelligence. True intelligence is having an ability to sense, intuit, feel, and recognize patterns, develop relationships, connections, understand associations to events, people and circumstances. When there is disconnect between exercising our true intelligence and our subconscious, we will have cognitive dissonance. Without understanding the underlying emotions and what they are, we will experience physical and emotional stress. Working as a Heart Mender, I begin addressing issues, getting to the heart of the matter and bringing thoughts to the surface. Once they are revealed and faulty belief systems recognized, we can begin to re-frame negative thoughts and start untangling the core beliefs that are part of the problem. Using stress reduction techniques, while shedding light on the subject, substantially releases inner turmoil. Circumstances may not change at the time, yet understanding one more key to the problem will contribute and assist in the healing process.

2 thoughts on “How to solve a problem?

  1. You stated “True intelligence is having an ability to sense, intuit, feel, and recognize patterns, develop relationships, connections, understand associations to events, people and circumstances.”

    I like your definition of true intelligence. It naturally fits the concept of the self as a unity of perceptions, a one world reality, which evolved to be a more successful survival strategy.

    Shall we agree that the subconscious is merely a deeply buried trove of memory?

    You say cognitive dissonance arises from a “disconnect between exercising our true intelligence and our subconscious.” I interpret that to mean stress-inducing cognitive dissonance is caused by ill-fitting pieces of perception and subconscious memory, which disturbs the unity of self.

    Like the checksum method in computer science used to detect errors in data transmission, our brain constantly validates thoughts and perceptions against a repertoire of memory. It does this in order to maintain the unity of self. Cognitive dissonance would be the uncomfortable feeling of “does not compute.”

    “To know that you do not know is the best. To pretend to know when you do not know is disease.” – Lao Tzu

    There is endless discovery in a vast universe. One problem solved often reveals another problem to be solved. Since we can’t have all the answers, it seems natural that The Great Mystery should comfortably fit within the unity of self without triggering cognitive dissonance.

    “We may know a little or much, but the farther we push the more the horizon recedes. We are enveloped in a sea of forces which seems to defy our puny intelligence. Until we accept the fact that life itself is founded in mystery we shall learn nothing.” – Henry Miller

    Your mission as a Heart Mender is to help reveal faulty belief systems and re-frame negative thoughts. This requires the cognitive dissonant to have sufficient true intelligence to reveal, recognize, and resolve the ill-fitting pieces of his own reality. You can’t do it for him, right? If you are successful the cognitive dissonance is abated; and I’d say you have helped someone exercise and strengthen their true intelligence.

    • A true heart mender or good therapist will not tell another how to, or what to think. We are vessels that help direct an exploration with the one who desires to discover that which is hidden within.

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