When one is quiet, do we automatically think they need to contemplate a matter while taking time to process their feelings and emotions? Are we sensitive to their requests? Do we honor their desire not to communicate with anyone at the moment? What if they aren’t talking because they are depressed and isolating? Is it up to someone else to come along side them and try to persuade them to get involved with people and socialize? When someone is quiet, are we secure enough in our relationship with them that we do not need reassurance that they are not upset with us? When addressing the issue of communicating, there are many dynamics involved. Listening is one part of communicating with each other, whether loved ones, friends, acquaintances and strangers. It is important to be available to listen to the message someone is trying to convey. I wonder why we belittle the need for silence. Can we hear when there are no words spoken? I believe we can. As far as communicating, what happens when we the “silent treatment”? There is a difference between the silent treatment (punishment) vs. hearing desired silence. When that is the case, are we considerate and understanding? Do we see clearly when a loved one has a need to withdraw momentarily while adjusting to new data input, or external challenges? When observing behavior changes, with strained communication, walls up and the words spoken are guarded, what is our response? Is there a natural tendency to question if something was said or done that offended the other? “Are they upset with me”? “I don’t understand, why they aren’t talking to me anymore”? What did I do wrong? These are natural thoughts for many.There are times when a situation occurs where forgiveness needs to take place in order to have the relationship restored. Knowing which is which can be very difficult. It is important to discern the difference correctly and then act accordingly. Our willingness to listen, communicate or wait patiently are key components to every successful relationship.